What 10 things have you stopped doing in your life?

I stopped looking for my dream guy. It is highly doubtful he will show up. And that's okay. My life is great as is.

I stopped sorting laundry. It's idiotic. Fabrics are color -safe now. I wash everything in cold water and literally 2 tablespoons of detergent, the recommended amount. And yes, my laundry gets clean. If there is something extremely foul or that needs bleached, I do a separate hot-water load.

I stopped struggling to put sheets on my bed in my tiny bedroom. A comforter on bottom, another on top, and I'm good.

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I stopped buying super-cheap clothing that I didn't enjoy wearing. I deserve to feel fashionable.

I stopped trying to find reasons to forgive people who don't deserve forgiveness. It was liberating.

I stopped worrying about what people think of me. Nobody thinks they care about that, but many actually do. If people call me a crazy cat lady…and? What should I do, throw myself off a cliff in remorse?

I’m wondering about attachment and transference with the therapist and the idea of escape and fantasy? How much do you think your strong feelings, constant thoughts, desires to be with your therapist are a way to escape from your present life? I wonder if the transference serves another purpose than to show us our wounds and/or past experiences, but is a present coping strategy for managing what we don’t want to face (even if unconsciously) in the present—-current relationships, life circumstances, etc. Can anyone relate to this concept of escape in relation to their therapy relationship? How does this play out for you?

I stopped trying to find common ground with Trump supporters. You can not rationalize with willful ignorance and those who have happily been brainwashed.

Edit/Postscript: I got a couple “mansplain alerts” helpfully explaining to me that I obviously stink, and that sheets must be changed every night. I don’t know how I managed before all these helpful tips! I teach in a middle school. Students this age have zero filters. If I stunk, I would hear about it immediately and loudly with no regards for my feelings. If my bedding was gross or stunk, I wouldn’t sleep on it. As I so often have to tell students, when I want your opinion, I’ll let you know.

I stopped hiding my education. I have a lot of it. Because of how I was raised, I used to not be proud of it, worried I would appear elitist. Now? Fuck it. I worked my ass off for each degree, it took years, and I deserve to be proud of those accomplishments.

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I stopped trying to forget my troubled childhood and instead used it as the basis for books.

I don't shower every day. I don't need to. I don't sweat much, never have. Two or three showers a week is enough for me.